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My message to those looking for your birthfamilies: Sometimes, finding your families can mean horrible pain years after the original wound has partially healed. Opening wounds of the past, compounded with new wounds can last for years. This was a very hard, hard chat to have. For those searching be aware of what the ramifications may be.

  This is a chat that I had, just this evening with my birthmother. Both names of my birthmother and both sides of my family have been changed to protect their anonymity.  None of this online chat has been altered in any way and I warn the reader of some strong language.

  This is my blood.

 

you told me to download yahoo again and it crashed

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:44:19 PM): doh

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:44:22 PM): you there

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:44:29 PM): that sucks

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:44:36 PM): rght

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:44:41 PM): right

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:45:39 PM): thanks for that one

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:46:16 PM): i didn't know it was gonna crash your system

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:46:37 PM): well Im sure you dindnt

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:46:57 PM): but it did

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:47:27 PM): no big deal

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:48:16 PM): got it up and running again

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:48:48 PM):

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:49:31 PM): look one question

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:49:50 PM): ok

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:50:05 PM): shoot

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:51:17 PM): your diagnios of rda when did it start

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:51:41 PM): RAD Begins at the developmental drive years...6 months to 2 years old

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:51:54 PM): sorry

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:52:09 PM): sorry for what?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:52:22 PM): I saud

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:52:24 PM): rda

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:52:35 PM): said

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:52:46 PM): said

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:53:30 PM): no problem

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:54:07 PM): and do you believe tahta

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:54:17 PM): that

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:54:41 PM): yes of course

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:54:56 PM): how do you know

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:55:44 PM): because I know

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:56:01 PM): its just something you know

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:56:15 PM): I have 300 blogs about my eearlier years

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:56:16 PM): no

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:56:36 PM): tell me how you know

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:56:43 PM): so

Birthmother (1/10/2010 10:58:35 PM): so what about your blogs

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 10:58:37 PM): I know, I have been diagnosed multiple times with the disorder, and I have also had all the major and minor symptoms

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:00:38 PM): ok

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:00:42 PM): fine

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:00:49 PM): I

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:00:52 PM): want

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:01:37 PM): to see a blog when we meat

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:01:42 PM): meet

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:01:45 PM): when are we meeting?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:02:03 PM): dont play

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:02:12 PM): when we meet

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:02:42 PM): I want3to3see3a3blog3about3that

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:03:21 PM): yeah

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:03:32 PM): ok

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:04:00 PM): oh my god I could blog about that

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:04:40 PM): well, when would you like to meet, Birthmother?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:04:50 PM): would that be a site

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:05:13 PM): mike we all rady did

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:05:34 PM): ready

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:06:35 PM): Birthmother, we met once and your just fine with that?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:07:02 PM): and one thing you told me I dont wont to ever see my dad but you went and bought him a birthday gift

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:07:28 PM): Yes I did...it felt very proper at the moment

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:07:41 PM): oh

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:07:44 PM): please

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:07:51 PM): I just want to know what I did as a child to you to hate me and loathe me so much

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:07:55 PM): why you refuse to see me

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:08:03 PM): oh

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:08:06 PM): plese

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:08:11 PM): please

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:08:42 PM): you are afake

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:09:18 PM): you are a fake

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:09:29 PM): fake how?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:10:23 PM): well lets see I hate people who drink

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:10:34 PM): i never said that

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:10:45 PM): yes you did

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:10:46 PM): I dont like it when you talk to me after you have been drinking

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:10:51 PM): no

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:11:13 PM): you wee so fake

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:11:24 PM): were

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:12:11 PM): you have been drinking??

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:12:16 PM): no

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:12:39 PM): my keys are sticking

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:12:51 PM): sorry

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:13:11 PM): so I'm a fake.....I still wonder why you hate me so much

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:13:27 PM): dont hate you

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:13:37 PM): calling me a fake is a hateful thing to do

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:13:39 PM): thats what you think

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:13:48 PM): no

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:13:51 PM): way

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:14:56 PM): you were a fake when you walked into my house

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:15:06 PM): how was I a fake? I am so totally lost?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:15:29 PM): where is your wife and child

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:15:41 PM): Canada I believe

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:15:53 PM): my grandson

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:16:13 PM): why

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:16:45 PM): because we are divorced

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:16:51 PM): why

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:16:54 PM): how does that have anything to do with me being a fake?

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:16:59 PM): because I was a terrible husband

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:17:08 PM): cool

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:17:39 PM): and father

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:17:50 PM): right

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:17:50 PM): yes, I was a real mess for a really long time

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:18:22 PM): and thats fine but around that time we meet

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:18:43 PM): you made me fill like shit

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:18:49 PM): how so?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:18:59 PM): oh plese

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:19:08 PM): please

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:19:33 PM): dont want to go thru that again

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:20:06 PM): dont remember the car ride

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:20:27 PM): sure I do. I asked you if you were whoring around while I was in foster care

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:20:43 PM): "Ho'ing" around I think is the actual word in question

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:22:08 PM): that was so huurtful to me and you did not sy foster care

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:22:54 PM): you said so how is it being a whore

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:23:28 PM): I NEVER SAID THAT I DONT KNOW WHY YOU THINK I SAID THAT

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:23:41 PM): i wouldn't even call my someone in my adoptive family a "whore"

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:23:58 PM): wellyou did

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:24:26 PM): yeah right

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:24:45 PM): and your still holding onto that anger, something you took out of context years and years ago?

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:24:48 PM): your still that mad?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:25:04 PM): no Im not

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:26:01 PM): but watch what you put on yourblogs

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:26:10 PM): whys that

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:26:18 PM): well

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:26:59 PM): your last blog you wanted me to see

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:27:45 PM): remember

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:27:58 PM): yep

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:28:02 PM): and

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:28:40 PM): please take that down

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:28:57 PM): what that i wanted you to see one blog? I want you to read all of them

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:29:38 PM): what do you want me to know Ernest

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:29:58 PM): what

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:30:16 PM): I didnt do anything to you

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:30:33 PM): The whole idea of the blog was to help other's with RAD kids that have had the same experiences that I have had..hopefully, to maybe help another family

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:30:47 PM): fine

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:30:59 PM): dont post maybe's

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:31:17 PM): I loved ou

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:31:24 PM): you

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:32:52 PM): you still there

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:33:04 PM): yea...the word LOVED is very powerful, Birthmother

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:33:11 PM): That says alot to me

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:33:40 PM): and I always have

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:34:39 PM): well, it's 11:30 at night..let's continue this conversation sometime when I am not so tired

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:35:31 PM): Right getting to you huh

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:35:46 PM): getting WHAT to me?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:36:17 PM): dont want to get into to it

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:36:29 PM): what are you talking about

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:36:45 PM): your life

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:37:30 PM): you can blame me all you want it wasnt my fault

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:37:59 PM): I don't blame you for anything? Who said I blamed you for what has happened to me?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:38:15 PM): oh please

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:38:24 PM): are you joking

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:38:30 PM): no I'm not

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:38:41 PM): tell when I said to you, this is YOUR FAULT

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:39:01 PM): show me a blog I have written that says its YOUR FAULT

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:39:09 PM): why did you give me away

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:39:21 PM): you whore

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:39:27 PM): thats not blame, thats a question

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:39:58 PM): and I tell you why you go and give gifts

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:40:16 PM): it was right

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:40:35 PM): right

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:40:39 PM): ?

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:40:51 PM): I notice you forget I also purchased a gift for my birthfather's wife as well

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:41:04 PM): that told me everything

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:41:23 PM): and what did that tell you

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:41:32 PM): oh my god thats worse

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:42:06 PM): you were the one that called my grandmother up and demanded that my birthfather be there, even though I told you I didn't want him there

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:42:09 PM): are you joking

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:42:29 PM): that was a slap in m face

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:42:44 PM): I did not

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:43:07 PM): I toldyouthat

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:43:34 PM): so when did you go and get the gifts

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:44:14 PM): before or after

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:44:15 PM): right before his birthday? How does that have any relavance to this conversation?

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:45:06 PM): because you said I called and you didnt know he was there

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:45:46 PM): so you had to take gifts up before you arrived

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:46:19 PM): No, you are right on the second part..that is correct..the second time we went up I got him a fishing lure or something

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:46:25 PM): you are correct on that point, it was after

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:46:26 PM): I apologize

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:46:40 PM): righ

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:46:46 PM): right

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:46:47 PM): that was the second time we went up

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:46:58 PM): the first time we came up there, he wasn't supposed to be there

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:47:00 PM): I never called anyone

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:47:03 PM): and somehow he knew i was there

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:47:19 PM): My grandmother told me you called her and asked him to be there

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:47:38 PM): and isnt it strange that you went and didnt tell me

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:47:47 PM): So Yvonne is lying to me

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:47:59 PM): yes sir

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:49:25 PM): how would have I known when you were going when you didnt tell me

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:49:56 PM): answer methat

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:49:58 PM): I did tell you..do you remember...I said "I found my family"

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:50:05 PM): and that I was going up

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:50:12 PM): You had to correct me in fact

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:50:19 PM): you had to correct a name

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:50:31 PM): mike you did not tell me

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:50:53 PM): Yes, Birthmother I did...you had to correct a name that I had mistaken in our family tree

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:51:03 PM): no

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:51:19 PM): you went when wefell out

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:51:34 PM): I would have gone anyways

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:51:39 PM): thats a moot point

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:51:39 PM): right

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:51:46 PM): but

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:51:48 PM): you

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:51:49 PM): told

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:52:10 PM): me I n ever want to meet my dad

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:52:26 PM): I DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE he just showed up

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:52:29 PM): thats the whole point

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:52:31 PM): so what did you find

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:52:43 PM): right

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:53:16 PM): I found all kinds of different things

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:53:37 PM): likewhat

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:54:02 PM): that most of my family didn't even know I was in the adoption system

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:54:09 PM): They thought I was with you

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:54:11 PM): who

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:54:20 PM): oh

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:54:23 PM): pleae

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:54:25 PM): Everyone dead

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:54:27 PM): please

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:54:29 PM): did**

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:54:40 PM): who

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:54:50 PM): didnt know

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:54:56 PM): when I say everyone I mean everyone encompassing our family on Yvonne's side...

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:55:23 PM): explain

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:55:52 PM): ok..I dont know how to make this anymore clear than I already have

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:56:03 PM): EVERYONE IN OUR FAMILY ON YVONNES SIDE THOUGHT I WAS WITH YOU

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:56:04 PM): I never meet any failynbutnwhonInsaw

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:56:14 PM): no one knew where I was

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:56:38 PM): who are you talking abut

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:56:49 PM): aboutt

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:57:08 PM): Daryl, Yvonne, Regina, Earnest and a few others an aunt I believe

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:57:16 PM): who did you contact

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:57:22 PM): everyone

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:57:27 PM): that I could

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:57:59 PM): so vonn didnt know wo you were

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:58:11 PM): that is correct

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:58:13 PM): who

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:58:29 PM): your grandmother

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:58:29 PM): I just said

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:58:37 PM): Daryl, Yvonne, Regina, Earnest and a few others an aunt I believe

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:59:08 PM): I dint even know them myself

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:59:31 PM): earnest

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:59:34 PM): ?

mikeincincy28 (1/10/2010 11:59:42 PM): yes, I am here

Birthmother (1/10/2010 11:59:49 PM): no

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:00:40 AM): you said earnest his Dad?

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:00:58 AM): what?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:01:27 AM): your real dad that was his name

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:01:39 AM): his dad

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:01:57 AM): you mean my Grandfather

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:02:12 AM): yeah he ddnt know

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:02:24 AM): didnt

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:02:31 AM): ?

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:02:31 AM): didn't know what

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:02:46 AM): where you where

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:03:06 AM): yes, we know that already

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:03:07 AM): no one did

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:03:20 AM): thats

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:03:51 AM): what Im talking about you said noone knew where you where

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:04:13 AM): they are lying

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:04:56 AM): Why would they lie to me

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:05:10 AM): well lets see

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:06:07 AM): dad an asshole

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:06:37 AM): When I lefted their bread and buter was gone

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:06:50 AM): butter

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:07:07 AM): they knew

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:07:16 AM): wait wait wait

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:07:22 AM): their bread and butter was gone?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:07:30 AM): and the dad yo u gave giftstokewalso

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:07:55 AM): knew also

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:08:37 AM): want to challenge me?

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:09:01 AM): Im not here to challenge you, Birthmother

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:08 AM): I know what happened

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:13 AM): no

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:19 AM): sometime

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:22 AM): in

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:23 AM): the

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:09:23 AM): what do you mean what happened?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:26 AM): future

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:27 AM): we

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:30 AM): should

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:32 AM): go

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:33 AM): and

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:35 AM): find

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:09:44 AM): out

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:10:50 AM): your extended family dont know because they were not there

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:11:16 AM): Birthmother, we have researched both sides of the family's

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:11:34 AM): ok

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:11:36 AM): and

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:13:07 AM): so you are telling me that someone in the extended family was there when I had to deal with this

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:13:29 AM): you have got to be joking

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:13:57 AM): Deal with what? What are you talking about? What did you have to deal with

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:14:38 AM): you said nobody knew nothing about you and what happened

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:15:00 AM): so "you dealing with this" was actually me

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:15:15 AM): what

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:15:51 AM): Yvonne told me that she was watching me when you took me. There was a fight, you stormed in, took me away and thats the last time they saw me, is that accurate?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:16:06 AM): no

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:16:30 AM): not true

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:16:41 AM): Birthmother, why would these people have a reason to lie to me?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:17:03 AM): I remember it like it was yesterday

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:17:34 AM): why would they lie to me

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:18:20 AM): same way their son abused me and looked away

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:19:25 AM): Why Would I have to lie why

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:19:44 AM): but the question is: Why would they lie to ME

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:19:46 AM): they don't know me

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:20:06 AM): to save face mike

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:20:40 AM): Vonne was heartbroken

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:20:42 AM): save face with someone they dont know?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:20:56 AM): look

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:21:01 AM): vonne

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:21:14 AM): was watching you

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:22:03 AM): and nikki for top dollar

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:22:39 AM): ok

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:23:08 AM): your grandfather was still alive you dad wasnt doing shit I met joe

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:23:52 AM): your grandfather told me I had to take you and nikki out of vonnes care

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:24:10 AM): why

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:24:20 AM): why did I have to be taken out of their home

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:24:53 AM): you were not there as living there

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:25:36 AM): do you understand

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:26:08 AM): yes I do

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:26:21 AM): he didnt want us there any longe

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:26:28 AM): longer

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:26:38 AM): Why?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:26:50 AM): do I know?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:27:13 AM): must have been because I met a new man

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:27:36 AM): now vonne knew this

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:27:56 AM): that is why I say she is lying

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:28:35 AM): so Vonne is lying that she never knew that i was adopted?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:29:31 AM): thats right

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:30:00 AM): dont believe everything you hear

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:30:46 AM): I have no reason to lie to you

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:31:56 AM): I can tell you alot of stuff but guess what you wont believe me right?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:32:23 AM): because someone else told you

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:32:25 AM): tell me.

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:32:32 AM): I will listen to everything you have to say

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:34:26 AM): so what happened to all of my last ims

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:34:42 AM): They are still here

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:35:19 AM): no they are not

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:35:43 AM): Yes they are Birthmother, I have them right here

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:36:06 AM): ok

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:36:43 AM): so you can believe anyone you want

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:37:45 AM): thats why we dont have a relationship

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:38:49 AM): hello

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:39:28 AM): so basically, if I understand you correctly you are saying we can't have a relationship because I can choose to decide for myself who is telling the truth and who is not?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:40:32 AM): thats what you have done right I am lying

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:40:58 AM): right?

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:41:28 AM): Actually you are incorrect. I am listening to what everyone has to say about the issue

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:41:33 AM): your words

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:41:49 AM): see lmao

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:42:08 AM): ok, Birthmother what were my words

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:42:10 AM): exactly

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:42:42 AM): why would they lie to me they dont know me

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:42:53 AM): exactly

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:42:55 AM): thats a question, Birthmother not a declaration

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:43:16 AM): that was your words

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:43:44 AM): Correct. I asked a question

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:43:51 AM): which would suggest nuetrality

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:44:09 AM): you think Im lying

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:44:22 AM): right?

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:44:23 AM): I never said you are lying

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:44:31 AM): oh

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:44:34 AM): please

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:44:54 AM): Did I say you were lying to me Birthmother?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:45:11 AM): who is your counselor if your seeig one

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:45:46 AM): what does my counselor have to do with any of this?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:45:53 AM): when you ask me why would they lie to me

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:46:14 AM): what does that say

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:46:51 AM): That says to me:

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:47:22 AM): that you asked everyone whichI neversaw

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:47:39 AM): no

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:48:01 AM): that I have to listen to everyone's position and listen to all sides

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:48:04 AM): thats what it means

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:48:08 AM): to me anyways

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:48:18 AM): your aunt uncle grandma didnt know you

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:48:31 AM): right

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:48:39 AM): Im lyiing

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:48:53 AM): Are you lying to me?

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:49:07 AM): why would I

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:49:15 AM): You just said you were lying to me

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:49:52 AM): no look atthe text

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:50:58 AM): I am, Birthmother

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:51:02 AM): mike one thing I would not lie to you

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:51:45 AM): Ok Birthmother, it's late...its like 1am..Thank you for telling me all of this.  I have to sleep

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:52:10 AM): right

mikeincincy28 (1/11/2010 12:52:16 AM): Thank you for telling me these things

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:52:28 AM): oh pleae

Birthmother (1/11/2010 12:53:20 AM): please

Birthmother: you still there

mikeincincy28: Yes, Birthmother I am ....but getting ready for bed..Thank you so much for talking to me about some of these things..I needed to hear them

Birthmother is typing a message.

Birthmother: oh please

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